Like any celebration in Denmark, there should be red and white flags EVERYWHERE at a wedding! From on every table and on top of the wedding cake to all around the venue, bonus Danish points will be given for this essential decoration. Always remember to wave them during the (many, many) speeches, and later they can be used as an accessory on the dance floor!
Speeches and Singing
Did we say there are lots of speeches? Well there are. Lots of them. a lot of talking. From family members, friends, colleagues and distant acquaintances - we Danes just like to talk! Basically anyone is allowed to stand up and say a few words.
Often these are also performed as an impromptue song and it is also common for famous Danish hits to be re-composed so that all everyone can sing along. And, of course, flags are waved in tune too!
The bridal waltz is also the highlight of Danish matrimonial festivities, and must take place before midnight. As the couple dance, all the guests form a circle around the couple and slowly move closer, step by step, until the bridal couple find themselves in the middle of a massive group hug. Just go with it and feel the love!
It gets weirder. As soon as the dance is over, the groom is lifted up by his friends and his shoes are removed. Then the top of his socks and the tie are cut off. Why? Some say it symbolises the first test for the new wife: she, as a good housewife, must stitch the socks and tie back together!
This seems a bit antiquated today (why shouldn't the the groom himself reach for needle and thread?), and others believe that this act symbolises that the man is unattractive to all other women. After all, who wants a man with holes in his socks and half a tie?
Kisses Kisses Kisses
If you're a guest at a wedding and want to annoy the newlyweds a little or keep them busy, then feel free to drum on their plate with a knife and fork or against the glass of water. You can also Stamp with your feet under the table. The bride and groom must then kiss either in the seat, under the table or standing in a chair. This bit never gets tired...for the other guests.
Here's another fun one. Whenever the groom or the bride leaves the room for whatever reason, you can steal a kiss from whichever partner is left at the table!